Let me start this off by saying that it is fitting that my husband’s love for Star Wars ties into our parenting journey.

I still remember the early days of our relationship, and sitting down for the 1st movie, which, fun fact, is actually the 4th chapter (my husband would be proud I’ve included this). And I remember thinking… 9 movies?…and in so many words, I thought – how will this impact our relationship?

I guess this is my answer…

To be honest… parenting feels like bouncing around chapters, book reprints, movie remakes, and any other analogy you can think of that can explain how impermanent things can be while navigating parenthood.

It’s a constant learning process.

It’s rewriting, editing, and publishing what you learn along the way. And deleting what doesn’t really fit into your life.

My husband and I are so grateful to have learned so much from our parents and people who have become parents before us. But when it comes to raising our child… we’ve come to realize the process is ultimately up to our little one and us as a unit.

Our childhoods, whether we want to admit it or not, play a huge role in our decisions as parents who are on the other side of the delicate dance of growing up.

Our parents’ advice, our siblings’ advice, parenting books, and documentaries might change bits and pieces of the trajectory of our parenting. But at the end of the day, we create it and follow through with what we believe in and what our hearts tell us to.

So much of learning how to do something you’ve never done before, is learning from someone you trust, respect, and love.

And we have been extremely fortunate to have copious amounts of wonderful people who have raised wonderful people…

Yet in the same way, we have also learned the things we won’t do, the things we won’t let be generational or repeated for our child’s upbringing.

Like anything in the world, parenting advice changes, it reverses, and it gets overturned…

The thing is, it often stays the same for the people who lived it & practiced certain parenting styles during their time. And it can be difficult to share aspects of parenting with people who don’t and won’t share your updated outlook.

Being parents in today’s world, where there are 1000 and 1 options and opinions in the palm of our hands, as well as our own parents’ advice, can be overwhelming to say the least…

My husband and I have found that the one thing we know to be true & constant in this parenting journey, is our undying team work. We luckily share similar mindsets for learning in real time alongside one another, and we absolutely love sharing all the parenting ups and downs.

We have also found that what our parents did, does not necessarily mean it’s the rule or the best/worst option for us.

What I’m trying to say is this…

Growing up is wild.

Finding who you want to spend your life with is wild.

Building a family with someone is wild.

And redefining what your child’s upbringing will look like is wild.

When I say the padawans have surpassed the master, I mean it in the most loving way….

Like in Star Wars… when this happens, it’s celebrated.

The next generation is taking the reins, and they are creating the next generation of padawans.

It’s a good thing, and it should be the goal… don’t you think?