The joy of having a house full of his and hers, but mostly ours

The joy of having a house full of his and hers, but mostly ours

Do you ever look at your house and realize just how much stuff you have accumulated over the years? 

With the stay at home order, I am sure you have had more than enough time to stare at your house and think – why do we even have that? And where did it come from?

My husband and I moved in together before we decided to take the leap and marry, and here is why I am so happy we did. 

We dated for a period of time and when his lease was up in the house of guys (I call it this, because – yes, he lived with 4 other guys), he was more than happy to settle down together in a house. 

At the house of guys, he had a room the size of someone’s pantry – and not like Kim Kardashian’s pantry – but like a do 2-3 lunges and hit the other side of the room sized pantry. I know, I don’t know how he did it! And believe it or not, he somehow managed to pack his entire life in it, right up to the slanted ceilings. 

Once I became more of a consistent addition, and after years of me buying him stuff, it was clear that the “to-go” container size of a room was not going to work much longer. 

At the time, I still lived with my parents, so everything I needed could fit into one car load. ONE. I mean, don’t get me wrong – I had a lot of stuff. But most of the items I didn’t pack were kept because of my mother and her love for memories being attached to objects. Her attic and basement are blasts to the past to all our family memories. I assume I will have this someday as well, and I cannot wait for it. 

Meshing two completely different lives into one space can be daunting and rather exhausting. 

I remember deciding to buy new items together, and we split the costs right down the middle. I’ll never forget the late nights and rushes of excitement when we bought our own furniture and set it all up. Little memories of the almost failures of driving our couch home, one half at a time, and praying that the rope would hold until we got home. Or when we had to assemble our TV stand while being overtired and trying to read confusing directions. I remember the laughs and the happy realizations that we had a person to do this with, for what would later be for life. 

We kept and respected each other’s “keep” items and we stored the rest. And now that I think about it, all the items we stored were complete wastes of space, and still are! If we walked into our garage right now, we would find an old boombox, a bunch of backpacks, and boxes of CDs and DVDS (who needs those anymore when you have streaming accounts galore?). Most of these items were kept because they were parts of who we were. And when we moved in together, we weren’t quite ready to release them and start on our next chapters of ourselves, as a house couple. 

My husband and I live in a cute little house where we have extra rooms and full spaces of our own. This luxury is seriously underrated and it’s truly glorious. Sometimes we think – why do people even go out as much as they do – everything you need is RIGHT here! 

Unlike popular trends, my husband has the biggest closet, and I have the smallest closet. I know what you’re thinking, why would HE need the big closet? 

The answer is embarrassing and simple. I have continuously over bought for the guy and I love doing it. 

If you’re anything like me, shopping for yourself is fun, but it’s even better when it’s for someone else! Our first Christmas I overdid it big time (and to be real, I sometimes still do) and bought him 25 gifts. I don’t say this to brag either, because he did an excellent and thoughtful job as well.  

I recall people saying – what if you guys break up? And I remember thinking – I don’t think that’s gonna happen, I think he’s the one. 

And guess what – he was indeed the one.

Fast forward 5 years. We are happily married, we are homeowners, and we are proud cat parents. 

And for all the important parts, his/hers turned into ours.

OK cats, you win

OK cats, you win

I suppose this could apply to anyone with an animal they absolutely adore, but in my case- I’m talking about my two Maine Coon Cats. 

My husband and I love them so much, and we honestly treat them like absolute kings. They are our little buddies, and get treated as such! 

The two of them get a variety of decadent wet foods, and not one, not two, but three DIFFERENT types of foods to rotate throughout the day (something my husband keeps track of, thank goodness). Not to mention the many times they demand to be pet and loved, while they consume said foods. They even have a plethora of tiny houses and XL scratching posts , strategically placed in almost every room of the house. All of this according to their preferences (I mean, but of course!). 

Our house is 40% ours and 60% the cats. If a piece of paper falls and they fancy it, it stays for the rest of the week. If a bag from our take out has the right crunch when they step on it, then….you guessed it – the bag stays.  Heck, we don’t even move if they decide to grace us with their snuggles. 

Sometimes I even go to the store and think about giving myself some shop therapy, and end up buying some fun snacks for them and organic cat nip! 

So, why? Why do these little fur balls get whatever they want, whenever they want? I mean, their cute fuzzy pawed selves obviously play a huge part, but I think the ultimate power they have, is that they DEMAND it and don’t settle for anything less than what they deserve. 

I often look at my cats during my work week, while sitting in front of my double computer screens, and while I’m glued to my desk,  I think “I’d love to be a cat, what a life!”.  

I’ve decided that one of my 2021 goals is to now have the confidence and authority of a cat. I’ll demand for what I deserve, and I’ll MAKE it happen or even will it into reality (I’ll have to think of something that is as convincing as a meow, tail rub, or intense pur). 

In all honesty, we should all embrace how our animals have the authority to make us do what/treat them how they want – and channel it for our everyday lives! Want that promotion or raise? Channel your inner animal mindset!